Every considered anger management?

Ever felt so angry that you wanted to smash your phone into the wall?

but then realized that you would have to pay for it later on?

When you are angry,

You aren’t really thinking about anything else but the anger,

You find it very difficult to do any other thing because all your energy is focused on that one single emotion.

For proper anger management, you need to look for ways to vent this pent up anger,

Most people would break things, yell or even keep talking just so that their anger runs out or they get exhausted and give up.

While all these methods may work, some of them can have really bad consequences.

For example, imagine you angrily smashed your phone?

Now you have to pay for a new one or you kept talking only to say things that you didn’t mean and wish that you could take back later.

Remember…

A Single Sentence Said In The Midst Of Anger Can Destroy Years Of Trust And Friendship In A Few Seconds.

Because of these consequences,

I found that the best way to vent anger without hurting yourself or someone else or destroying things that you would regret later, while also getting the closure that you need is to cry.

And am gonna show you just how…

Quick disclaimer:- Am not a psychologist or a life coach, think of my opinions as that you would get from a friend who is just trying to help.

Without further Ado, lets look at 5 tips for proper anger management….

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How Can I Practice Proper Anger Management?

1. Find Out Your Trigger

We all have triggers…

They are basically things that get us angry or upset, for some people,

It can be a simple little thing like saying something about them that isn’t true,

But for some other people, it can be things like making a mistake.

2. You Need To Identify When Your Anger Triggers

Identifying your trigger lets you know if you will be offended by an action or a statement and it gives you the opportunity to choose to walk away from that person or that situation.

When you identify that you are about to be upset,

Or can feel yourself getting upset, you are automatically aware that you can decide how to react to this feeling.

Being self aware of impending anger is the first step to anger management.

3. Take It All In – Know Your Anger Pointers

Anger pointers are simply things that tell you that you are currently being controlled by Anger,

they are little reactions that your body gives you to let you know that you are upset.

You need to let yourself become upset so that you can know what your pointers are,

It can be anything from fast breathing, fast-talking, shivering, shaking, pacing, sweating, sweaty palms, or even fear.

The great thing about these pointers is that they are very noticeable,

You simply can’t miss them! identifying these pointers lets you know that you are angry and if you are angry,

You can now decide what to do with the emotional boost you are currently getting.

That brings us to the next step you should take for proper anger management.

3. Make A Decision

So you’ve identified your triggers and pointers and you now know that you are “Angry” but what do you want to do about it?

In this step you need to make a decision,

This is usually the stage where people lash out, break things, yell, talk back etc., and at this stage there’s usually one decision that is always the best, “WALKING AWAY”

Think about it,

By walking away, you are saying “no” to being controlled by anger,

To lashing out and saying things that you will regret,

You are stopping yourself from breaking that beautiful vase that you would otherwise have to replace later on.

4. Anger Response – Walking Away

Walking away is the best decision that you can make in the midst of anger because by walking away,

You have offended no one,

You have just bought time for yourself to control this emotion trying to get the best of you, by walking away, you have put yourself in control.

So take a break to use the bathroom, or any room, to get away from that situation or person.

And this brings me to the next anger management tip…

5. Crying – Let Those Tears Flow Freely

Ever wondered why we have the ability to cry? or why people cry when they are happy, sad or even scared.

This one single ability is what controls these powerful emotions, fear, sadness, happiness so why not anger?

It is very unhealthy to not vent Anger, suppressing anger can lead to so many terrible outcomes later on in life,

Depression, grudges, negativity, etc. are all outcomes of pent up anger waiting to be released.

And guess the best way to release all this Anger – You got it right! “Crying“, so do what you have to do, CRY,

It doesn’t matter how you cry, in the shower with the water running,

Or alone with the door locked, it’s up to you! but make sure that you are letting it all out,

And don’t forget to scream if you want to.

Read this post on how to let go of a grudge

There isn’t a limit to the amount of tears that you cry so take your time to know how you feel and simply let it all out by crying.

And that brings me to the final anger management step

6. Know That You Are Better Than Your Trigger.

Over time, I have come to understand, that crying isn’t a sign of weakness,

It’s a way of showing how you feel, you need to understand that you are a strong person because you have got you!

You can handle whatever the world throws at you and not change that beautiful heart of yours if you are angry about something its because you care,

You wouldn’t let something you didn’t care about have hurt your feelings.

7. Avoid Situations That Make You Angry

Avoid people who know your triggers and still try to get you upset, either way,

Sometimes people try to get you upset on purpose just for the satisfaction of watching you get ruled by that emotion,

Imagine how they would feel if you smiled when they expected you to be raging with anger?

Also know that you are better than these triggers, you are bigger and that you are in control.

Tell yourself that you won’t let your tears flow for these things anymore, I once read…..

Anger is punishment that we give ourselves for someone else’s actions

The next time you get upset think about it, don’t be controlled by what other people do or don’t do,

Their actions reflect who they really are not who you are, so there isn’t any need to be hurt by them.

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Conclusion

Anger is part of the life of every human, it is part of what makes you, YOU!,

Anger management helps you find that you have better relationships with people and you are more understanding of others and yourself and who you really are.

So next time you get angry, before you decide to reply people back, or yell,

Or break things, i hope you remember this post and that it helps you control it,

So that you can be that beautiful version of yourself that i know you are deep down inside.

I hope that you have enjoyed my post!, share this post to people who you think will benefit from it,

Also leave a comment below to let me know what you thought of this post and which methods work for you!